Never have you ever?
I know it can be quite intimating when its two vs one. Its not a exactly fair fight, is it?"Where do I put my hands? What do I do when they are going at it? Will I be enough for two women..?" Its a lot of pressure! As if pleasing one lady isn't enough already! But I promise you are in four (or more!) excellent, willing, and giddy hands. Hopefully, my guide to threesome etiquette will give you the knowledge to move forward with confidence.
And we will take it from there…
The Art of the Ménage à Trois
Know her preferences! Some providers will use a duo as a way to get together with another girl they have had their eye on from a far. That is perfectly ok if that's what she wants! For me personally, its important for me to have met her in person before we get down and dirty together. I have had nightmare experiences being thrown in with someone I wasn't a good match for and I'd like to avoid that in the future, please. You can find my favorite, tried and true girlfriends right here on my Soul Mates page! Many providers have a page dedicated to their friends, if not, just ask who they enjoy working with!
That being said, I am open to making new friends, but I need to meet her before we are paired together to ensure the kind of hot chemistry we are all looking for. If you have your heart set on pairing me with a specific lady that I haven't yet crossed paths with, you are encouraged to sponsor a pre-duo brunch for her and I to get acquainted before all of us get together for the real deal. Lets make sure we are the right fit!
Contact and screen with both ladies. If you have a previously established relationship with one, discuss the possibilities of adding another into the mix. Ask her who she has chemistry with. It is safe to assume that by the time you have gotten an enthusiastic "yes!" from the former, she has already reached out to her gal pal behind the scenes. Even so, it is still great form to reach out afterwards and introduce yourself accordingly, with screening information, to your new friend. Every provider has their own variation of verification that makes them feel safe. Show her you want to make a good impression by offering it up before she has to ask. She will be expecting you.
Do not go in with expectations about what's going to happen unless you've already gotten the ok on a negotiated fantasy. Everyone has different limits. Some girls are happy to dive into full contact with their duo partner, others would rather play it straight and simply revel in the delight of double-teaming you alongside her. Both are very fun! I personally always discuss limits in detail with my duo partners in private before the date so she does not feel pressured to do anything on the spot. Allow time during the booking process to make sure that conversation has time to happen. If you are looking for a specific experience, make sure to communicate that with your established date before she reaches out to the uninitiated. She may know more about the new girl's style and can select someone who is perfect for what's been running through your imagination.
Understand industry expectations. If is that if there is a difference between the rates of the providers, you should include the higher of the rates for each lady. Everyone has a different business model and does what works for them, but it is a slap in the face to demonstrate that you are willing to value one's time over that of the other's. Don't make it awkward! You will offend your new girl and embarrass your old one for even recommending you.
As I have said before: "I am very much of the mind that you can’t know, until you’re taught. But once you’ve been taught, you will be held to the expectation to know."
Now you know ♡
